Expressing the significance in her life, Grace writes about her experience of seeing a woman in orgasm for an hour during an educational demonstration.
My legs are crossed, my hands in my lap, my heart seems to beat a little fast than usual — I’m surrounded by fellow sensual explorers and friends. We are nearing the end of the first section of the OIC course and soon we will be experiencing a woman in orgasm for one hour. Before we take a break, I hear Rachael tell us that Susan will be in orgasm before anyone even touches her. As she says these words I think about the presence of orgasm in my own life, and how before entering this room I also have been preparing my body and mind. I have been looking forward to this moment for weeks.
Ever since my first OIC two years ago at the Welcomed community’s Ranch, I have reflected on, investigated and explored my feelings and reactions to my experience of seeing a woman cumming in such a profound, beautiful, inspirational and informative way. Having the opportunity to experience an OIC again was a gift, one that was made all the sweeter by the anticipation and intentionality of participating.
A week earlier I was painting a hallway and mentally preparing myself for the OIC course. I stood in front of the white wall of the hallway, speckled with nicks, dings and finger prints and ran the soft bristles of the paint brush over my fingers, ready for the work ahead. I remembered being at the Ranch, planting beans with Daisy and thinking about something I had just learned —pleasure can be found in any experience.
For the next few hours I reveled in the satisfaction of seeing bright white paint roll over imperfections on the wall, I used a tiny paintbrush to fill in holes and the minuscule strokes my brush made reminded me of the touch of my new partners finger tip across my clit — those tiny and gentle strokes can be the most gratifying.
Spending the day at the Welcomed community’s house, enjoying the company of all it’s occupants as they stepped through the hallway, laughing at the table for lunch and later, delicious scones and tea, at each moment I felt that I was receiving the gratification of doing the OIC course before it had even happened.
The energy of anticipation, the gratification of going towards something I desired, was as profound as the evening of the OIC itself where we’d be experiencing another woman in orgasm for one hour. It reminded me that pleasure is found in every part of life if we choose to let it wash over us. I relive the experiences I’ve had, in writing this blog post, again feeling the paint bristles over my fingertips and tasting hot sweet tea as I did at the other day, feeling the electric pulse across my skin just I did at the course.
Experiencing the OIC for the second time illustrated to me just how much there is to learn about Deliberate Orgasm, sensuality, and pleasure. It’s exciting to think I have only scratched the surface. Especially now, when I do feel so good about my sex life — it gets better every day as I have the opportunity to explore with partners myself in all the ways I can give and receive pleasure. As RJ first began DOing Susan I felt my body fall into a comfortable and relaxed position — I felt the anticipation leading up to this moment unfold from the top of my scalp down through the small of my back and into my thighs like warm honey.
Throughout the OIC Rachael’s voice played in my head “you can trade tension for pleasure” and I tried to remain conscious of the tense and relaxed parts of my body and mind. In the same way, RJ created orgasm in Susan’s body, I tried to let the experience as a whole take control of my body. In the moments where I felt a tension in my thighs, my fingers, my clit and the tips of my toes I tried not to force it out but let the good energy around me and the presence of Susan’s pleasure wash over me.
At one moment I heard someone in front of me breathe out slowly and carefully, I could tell they were feeling the peak Susan was on and their breath reminded me to let myself relax and ride the wave as well.
The orgasm in Susan’s body seemed to be reverberating throughout the room. Visually, I was amazed by the changing colors of Susan’s pussy and body — the blue veins on her legs were like the delicate pattern of lace on a leaf, the thick and plump shape of her labia, especially as the OIC continued, reminded me of an over ripe fruit, an organ bringing breath and sensation to the rest of her body. Her introitus opened and closed with the delicacy and strength of blooming flower. Her cheeks were a vivid coral and her chest painted with rosy pink.
Hearing the questions and comments shared throughout the OIC were like anchors, bringing me back into the present moment. This time around, the information given by RJ, Susan, and Rachael was as pertinent as the physical sensations I was experiencing. I felt able to focus on RJ’s exact technique, noticing his light touch and the subtle movements across Susan’s clit to create as much sensation as possible.
These insights have followed me since the OIC — despite the fact that RJ has been DOing Susan for so many years, and that I know (from personal experience) that time and energy placed into learning another person’s orgasm deepens pleasure tenfold. I also could see that RJ’s technique was straightforward and I felt a renewed sense of excitement about bringing DOing into my sexual/sensual relationships. There is so much possibility in a brush stroke or the softness of a finger tip as long as we are prepared to experience pleasure all along the way, or at least that’s what I keep learning.
Student and Sensual Researcher