At the BenchMark last week, someone asked me how Deliberate Orgasm (DOing) adds to my life. The question surprised me as I have not been asked that in years. But it activated thoughts about the recent DO dates I’d been having and so it was fun for me to put those thoughts into words and acknowledge what I’ve been experiencing.
Through DOing, I get to experience what I’m capable of as a human being. Those times when I am expanding, feeling all that I can feel, reaching past my limitations, when I’m getting off and having a good orgasm, that’s when I get to experience my own capacity as a sensing mammal functioning on this planet.
Recently, I have had experiences when getting DOne that have expanded my mind–to know I can feel that much on my clitoris, with such a level of detail. The minuscule spot that’s getting stroked balloons out into this entire realm of sensation that is sometimes located directly in my body but is often far less tangibly located somewhere above my body, spiraling out above me. Two days ago, I felt a broad bar of sensation that had spread from the upper left-hand quadrant of my clitoris up my abdomen, over my chest and into the left side of my face. When I noticed the connection I felt across this expanse of my body, I thought, this is full-body orgasm right here. These experiences expand my mind because they cross my own (self-imposed) barriers of what I think I can feel.
And then it dawned on me as I gave my response and looked around at the room full of people with their attention on me, we are all capable of this. We all have it in us. We’re born with these parts that are pathways to enormous, exponentially expanding, potential for sensation.
So often we seek outside stimuli and status to give ourselves a “thing” or our “it.” Like, getting that job, dating a good-looking person, learning a new skill. There is a tendency to believe that these are the things that give us a purpose. All of that is good, but I realized that this is something we’re born with. It’s all right here.
That was a fun, thought-provoking question.