Sensual researcher, Elle, gives us a candid account of exactly what inspired her to make an advanced female masturbation video. She describes how she masturbates, the specifics of doing connections to create a full body orgasm and how it adds to her sex life with her partner.
“I love connections because it makes other sex acts even more sensitive and more sensual. I love it when I kiss somebody and I can feel that sensation, a direct connection to my clitoris…” ~Elle
Sheri: Since being a sensual researcher for so many years tell us about your experiences with masturbation and changes that you have had.
Elle: My experience with masturbation has changed a lot over the last several years. Like many people, I never grew up with a course on how to masturbate – where to touch myself, how to touch myself, what was appropriate or good or bad – just how to do it. I remember at a young age I would rub my pussy really hard, and didn’t even know where these sensations were coming from. It wasn’t until later actually, I was in my early 20’s in my first sensuality course, that I realized the orgasm stemmed from my clitoris. From that point on my touch has changed. It varied, but it became more deliberate when I would touch my clitoris and when I would touch my pussy. Because all of a sudden the sensations would break down and I would feel sensations in my introitus and in my clitoris. I would feel my labia engorge. Even recently, the way that I masturbate has changed. From when I did my first video, Female Masturbation Volume IV Pleasures of a Woman in Orgasm, to doing this one. Also, through my experience of watching the other female masturbation videos, I picked things up, like ‘Wow, that looks great on her, I’ll give that a try.’ So that was a lot of fun to even know that my masturbating techniques can expand even further.
Sheri: I appreciate how still you are. Would you say more about that?
Elle: I can feel the sensations that are coming from my pussy. I’m so deliberate with my finger and the way that I want to touch my pussy that I don’t feel the desire to want to move my body around. And the more still I am, the more aware I am of the sensations that are coming through my pussy and into the rest of my body. Whereas, if when I’m moving, if I move different parts of my body or how I used to masturbate and I would move around a lot, that was actually a distraction. It deterred the sensations from growing in my clit and in my body.
Sheri: Do you masturbate the same way each time?
Elle: Every time I masturbate is always a unique experience. Even if I think in my mind, “I am going to put the same exact stroke on my clitoris”, there is always a different sensation that can arise from it. Even the moment that I think, “Oh, this feels the same”, if I put my attention elsewhere and I think about my perineum and what’s going on there, then the orgasm looks different. It creates different sensations in my body.
Sheri: What is a favorite frame from creating this masturbation video?
Elle: My favorite frame from this experience is there was a specific moment when I was stroking my introitus and my clitoris at the same time and I could just feel the sensation building and building and building at that moment. I took my finger off of my clitoris and I could still feel the compounding effect of the sensations building.
Sheri: Explain to our listeners and viewers how the technique of connections work.
Elle: The clitoris is the most sensitive part on my body and when I start stroking another part of my body at the same time it connects the sensation. It’s a lot of fun to use this technique. You could even, after the first time, feel a different sensation such as when I was doing my lip and the sensation building. I love connections because it makes other acts even more sensitive and more sensual. I love it when I’ll kiss somebody and I can feel that sensation, a direct connection to my clitoris. I love that. Or when my partner is sucking on my nipple, I can feel this zing of sensation as it goes right to my clit. It just feels so good.
Sheri: And a description of the technique…
Elle: Connections are when you develop a connection between your clitoris and another part of your body. It’s something that you can develop over time. So that when another part of your body is being touched, you can feel that sensation in your clit. Or just the opposite, if your clit is being touched you can feel the connection through the rest of your body. It reminds me of this example that was given to me. It’s like a baby. When you touch a baby in one spot, it can feel it everywhere because its whole body is connected. It hasn’t separated one part of its body. The baby senses from one part of its body to the next. Everything is connected. So connections are a way of re-sensitizing and reconnecting your body to feel everything from one point to another.
Sheri: When did you learn about connections?
Elle: I learned connections when I took my first Common Sensuality course. That was many years ago. The Welcomed Consensus had assigned homework and in that homework were several different exercises that you do and one of those exercises was connections.
Sheri: Did you always like direct stimulation on your clitoris?
Elle: I have always liked direct stimulation to my clitoris. (And especially) when direct stimulation to my clitoris was done through a trained man. When I became aware of where my clitoris was, how much sensation it held, I enjoyed it.
Sheri: In what ways does masturbation effect your sex life with your partner?
Elle: Masturbation relates to my sex life a lot with my partner for many different reasons. One, it adds to my sex life. There are many times when I will get DOne (having a DO date) in the morning and I decide to masturbate during the day and then I get DOne in the evening. So it allows this great connection, this great flow throughout the day. It only increases and encourages good sensations in my body. Especially if my partner is gone working for the day. It’s like I love him coming home to a turned-on body and to me feeling good. So when I take the time and I turn my body on and I masturbate, I am taking care of my body. And it feels good when we see each other again for me to be in this good place and to get to an even better place when we have sex together.
Sheri: What do you enjoy about getting DOne, having a Deliberate Orgasm?
Elle: There are many things that I love about getting DOne. One of the things that I love is the sensations that it creates in my body. It’s so much fun when he is just DOing me and he hits this other pocket of sensation that he’s never hit before and it creates all these new feelings in my body. I love the way I feel afterward because I can feel my body and how much more relaxed I am. I feel this confidence. I feel this thing about being a woman. I can feel how right it is in being a woman when I am getting DOne and my body is getting filled with orgasm.
Sheri: When you are masturbating or having a DO date do you go over the edge?
Elle: I do not go over the edge every time that I masturbate. I still do go over the edge, it’s a fun sensation to have. It happens only on occasion. I love the peaking sensation because it’s this continuum. After I masturbate or after I get DOne, it doesn’t just end. There’s always room for more at that point. So instead of taking myself over, I love peaking myself or being peaked while being DOne. It adds so much more. It increases intensity and the duration of orgasm in my body.
Sheri: Are some areas of your body easier to connect?
Elle: When I do connections I certainly find that there are easier places in my body than others. And there’s also that point of starting a connection. I remember starting to do a connection and I felt like I didn’t feel a thing. But I just stuck with it and I kept it going. My nipple was one of the easier places for me to develop a connection. So was my lip and my introitus. It took some time and encouraging and creating that connection between my clitoris and my introitus. At first, it was these slow, little movements. Then I felt that grow and expand. That was a great feeling to have and to know that just over time it just slowly came about. There were times that I felt like, “Is anything really happening?” But I knew that it was. To just have fun with it and approve of any sensation, whether I felt one ghost stroke or none. And soon there were two and then three that developed from it. That was a lot of fun.
Sheri: What inspired you to make this advanced masturbation video?
Elle: I had been wanting to do this connections video for a long time. I have always had so much fun doing connections and by doing this video it was a way for me to have the information. The information that the Welcomed Consensus has given to me through courses and the friendship that I’ve had with them. To be able to extend the information even further because it’s fun because I love it, because of how much it has added to my life, how much more sensual it has made me feel in my body and how much I’ve gotten from it. It’s fun. It’s good just to have more of that out in the world. If one person watches this and gets it and loves doing connections, I feel like I’ve contributed. I’ve passed this all on, had that one person experience what I’ve experienced and be able to make their lives even better.
Sheri: Thank you, Elle