My life is good beyond words. It’s good because Yvonne is my friend, and because I live in this tribe which is made up of people who have always done whatever it took to have my life be excellent beyond words.
New Year’s Eve is approaching, for the last 12 New Year’s Eves I lived in San Francisco and came up to the ranch with the rest of the San Francisco house to greet the new year with the whole tribe being together. For the last ten of those years I was pretty seriously into Argentine tango, and went to milongas several nights a week in and around San Francisco, becoming very much a part of the San Francisco tango community, even though I knew I was actually more a part of the Welcomed community. That is to say that although I was spending a lot of time doing tango and hanging out with tango people, I knew I could never tell the truth to these people, or if I did I would be seriously ostracized by them.
The truth that I could never tell was that I loved tango, but my highest priority in life was to learn to be a friend to women, which meant noticing them, telling the truth to them, and producing more and more pleasure in their bodies, or the longest and most intense orgasms that I could produce. Even just writing that in this blog, I can feel many people having intense value judgments about that, and being turned off by that being my goal.
But the truth is that having that as my goal has been instrumental in my now being able to say that my life is unbelievably good beyond words. In fact six months ago, I focused my energy even more by seriously dedicating my life to the goal of getting women off better than they have ever gotten off before every time I have a DO date with any one of them. Yvonne decided to dedicate her life to expanding her orgasm and to being the best friend she could possibly be to me so that as a team we are a channel through which orgasm flows and fun emanates.
In the process of training me to produce great orgasms in her body, we have developed a great friendship. We love to be together as much as possible, and she loves to tell me the truth about as many things as possible. The good feelings we create in our relating infuse the whole tribe. We lay in her bed yesterday afternoon and for an hour or so she told me everything that happened in the house meeting that I missed because of my dental appointment, and how she felt all the tribe members were doing. So whereas our friendship and the fun that we have permeates the whole tribe, our friendship can only exist and can only soar to the heights to which it soars as a component of the tribe. We would be as precarious as any other relationship these days if we attempted to do this independently. The Welcomed Consensus and its teachings has always been the underlying, often unacknowledged, force that binds many of its community and students together in successful, fun relationships. This is even more true of the friendships within the tribe, the core of the community, the group of us who live with the Welcomed Consensus. I’m used to saying I live with them, although since being Validated, Yvonne and I are part of the WC as fellow teachers.
So New Years is almost here. In all of the past ten years, I fantasized about bringing a tango woman friend up the ranch with me and doing a performance for the tribe on New Year’s Eve. Oh, I haven’t told you, but that’s what we generally do on New Year’s Eve. We perform skits and songs and dances and stand-up comedy routines for each other. Some years we really get into it, and other years more half heartedly. But I think this year, there is a lot of enthusiasm in the air for having some fun performances on that night. I would have to guess it is being catalyzed by Yvonne and I learning a tango vals and a tango milonga, practicing together and having so much fun doing it, for the last couple of months, with the goal of performing them on New Year’s Eve. It is a sign and an outgrowth of the grace within which our friendship exists that Yvonne is so thoroughly in love with the dance, dance in general and dancing Argentine tango with me specifically, as well as the music, the culture, the language, and all of its aspects.
This is all an outgrowth of our continuing love and dedication to the research of female orgasm and the friendship based on it. This friendship and this research are the core of my existence. Around this core many layers of fun can be wound, such as the continuing conversations we have with one another, and even tango. Like dancers in a spiraling giro, the sensual lives of all the tribe members revolve around each other, and my life is good beyond words.