Chrystal Bougon speaks with two instructors of the Welcomed Consensus in a live interview on Better Sex Radio titled ” How to Have a 1 Minute Orgasm, a 3 Minute Orgasm and a 1 Hour Orgasm” Listen to Chrystal as she finds out more details about what makes Deliberate Orgasm deliberate, how “date” night will never be the same, and how anyone can reliably create orgasm in a woman’s body, every time and anytime.
Chrystal: Hi there, good morning. Welcome to Better Sex Radio. This is Chrystal Bougon, your host. My mission is to help people to have better sex and do that through my online store which is BlissConnection.com. I also have the radio show of course and our blog which is BetterSexRadio.net. I have some interesting guests and today’s show is all about the female orgasm.
Chrystal: Today is definitely all about her day and I hope the gentleman are listening because we know they want to learn this stuff too. To help their female partners to have better sex and better orgasms.
Chrystal: I want to invite and welcome Francoise and Rachael from the Welcomed Consensus to the show this morning. Good morning ladies.
Francoise & Rachael: Good morning Chrystal.
Chrystal: How are you guys doing?
Francoise & Rachael: Great.
Chrystal: Before we get too far into it, would you mind sharing with our listeners your website and a little bit about your mission. I know you are both sensuality researchers and educators and you are going to talk to us today about some very specific orgasm techniques for women. But tell everybody about your website, and your videos and who the two of you are.
Francoise: We both are instructors with the Welcomed Consensus and our focus is that we research female orgasm. We actually have a website – welcomed.com.
Chrystal: So “welcome” with a “d” basically.
Francoise: Right. We teach sensuality courses and we also have 3 video collections on Deliberate Orgasm about how to create orgasm in a woman’s body every time and anytime, our video collection on Female Masturbation and one, A 3 Minute Orgasm, on how to have a 3 minute orgasm everyday.
Chrystal: Okay, we definitely want to talk about how to have a 3 minute orgasm everyday, so we have to come back to that. I just wanted to mention to my listeners, if you go to welcome-d basically, welcomed.com, I notice you guys have a really nice box right at the top of the web page. If you would like to get on their mailing list just go right there to the blue box that says “Do you want more pleasure in your life?” Enter your email address here. And I guess you are going to start getting your newsletters and stuff so everyone can learn a little bit more about your organization.
Francoise: That is right.
Chrystal: Cool, we hope everybody goes on there and adds to your mailing list and learns more about the 3 minute orgasm, the 1 minute orgasm. I think this whole point about how you reliably create an orgasm in a woman’s body every time and anytime – I think that’s pretty big, so let’s explain to people what that means and explain what Deliberate Orgasm means to them.
Francoise: Deliberate Orgasm is a body of information to have more pleasure in your life. The technique aspect is that, what is unique is in Deliberate Orgasm is first people, before they have a sensual experience, both decide to put their attention on one person’s body for the optimum amount of pleasure. Orgasm is created through manual stimulation of the genitals.
Chrystal: So I understand it’s kind of like you are making a date and for that one person they just receive all of the pleasure. That’s what makes it Deliberate Orgasm.
Francoise: That’s right.
Chrystal: All the attention is on that partner for some amount of time.
Francoise: That’s correct, right. In this case our research is mainly about female orgasm, so the woman is going to lay down on the bed. The partner uses his finger, uses his index finger and uses a little lubricant, and then touches her clitoris directly. The clitoris has the highest concentration of nerve endings in the human body. He can then start stroking, following some of the techniques that we show, with the speed and length of the stroke. In that way it is easy to create an orgasm in a woman’s body and do it every time and anytime.
Chrystal: Every time and anytime – now that is very intriguing because we know there are lots of women out there that have issues with having orgasm on a regular basis, have some dysfunction around it, or just can’t focus enough to have one. So how do we get to this point where we get one every time? How do we get it reliable like that?
Francoise: The clitoris, having the highest concentration of nerve endings, and when both people have their attention on who is receiving the pleasure, the woman herself can keep her attention on her body. She can relax. She doesn’t have to think and wonder, “Am I going to have to return anything? Am I going to have to do anything?” So she can focus on her own body, she can relax.
Chrystal: So part of it really is just saying – Look, I’m taking this time, this hour and I am just committing myself to this wholly and it is my turn to receive pleasure. That’s a big one. That’s a hard thing for women to do.
Francoise: It really is a fun thing to do. Because from there, by focusing her attention on her genitals, on her clitoris, on the point of contact of the finger on her clitoris, she can start discovering things about her own body, communicating with her partner and having fun and building from there. We believe that every orgasm is built one stroke at a time.
Chrystal: Every orgasm is built one stroke at a time, I like that. So this is a manual technique that you are suggesting and of course the big portion of this really is to make the mental time for this particular kind of play. And then, I think you are also suggesting that when you do that, when one person just receives for an hour they learn a lot about themselves and then their partner also learns a lot about them in that one hour or whatever the time is.
Francoise: Right. We put out this DVD series, A 3 Minute Orgasm Series, to show that Deliberate Orgasm or DOing is a sex act that anyone can incorporate into their sex life. No matter how busy they are, or how orgasmic they feel they are, or are not, or whether they even have a regular partner or not. Because everyone has 3 minutes in a day.
Chrystal: Yes, I think so too.
Francoise: And you don’t need an hour, you could just take 3 minutes and that’s why we put out this particular series of DVDs to show that it’s possible to incorporate this kind of pleasure and attention and orgasm on your body. It’s a highly pleasurable way to relate with a partner. Your partner can learn things about you and all you need is 3 minutes. You walk away from there feeling good, and feeling like you know each other better, you are more relaxed. And every woman can have it because every woman has a high concentration of pressure sensitive nerve endings in her clitoris.
Chrystal: So, your research is in line with the other data that says we have about 8,000 nerve endings in our clitoris.
Rachael: That’s correct.
Chrystal: And of course, I love to remind people of this, that the clitoris, the only purpose, it’s only job to do is give you orgasm. It has no other functionality. Put it to good use, because you were given it for a reason.
Rachael: That’s right.
Chrystal: Rachael or Francoise we have about a minute and a half before we have to take a quick break. I wondered if you guys could maybe explain the DO, the DOing, the D.O., the Deliberate Orgasm, that language a little bit – so when we come back from the break people might understand a little bit better what the DOing and the D.O. means.
Rachael: Okay, well Deliberate Orgasm, DOing, DO stands for Deliberate Orgasm. It is called deliberate – Deliberate Orgasm because it is a sex act that you and your partner decide together to do beforehand. It’s not necessarily spontaneous. It’s something that you can both count on happening and having, giving and receiving great amount of pleasure.
Chrystal: And so, when we hear you say “DO her”, you guys really are not, you are just using this language you guys kind of created which is the D.O. – DOing, “DO her” that way. Not like, it kind of sounds a little bit slangy but I don’t think you guys mean it in that way.
Francoise: No, we mean it exactly as “Deliberate Orgasm”, that they both decide to put their attention, for example on her, then using manual stimulation of the clitoris, when the attention is on her, then it is easy to create that kind of an orgasm. You can then decide to talk about before, during and after and create more connection and intimacy that way with each other.
Chrystal: Interesting. Well I can’t wait to come back and talk about the 3 minute orgasm. We are going to take a quick break. You are listening to Better Sex Radio, this is your host Chrystal Bougon. Don’t forget to check out our website BlissConnection.com, and you can also check out Rachael’s and Francoise’s where they sell these DVDs at welcomed.com.