Posted by Jill tarbox on July 26, 1997 at 03:58:08:

In Reply to: Re: Unable to achieve orgasm posted by The Welcomed Consensus on March 30, 1997 at 07:16:38:

The reason you feel more sensation on the left side is because the glans of the clitoris clitoris reach down and out to each side of the vaginal walls and the left side is genarally more sensitive to most woman.

>The Welcomed Consensus - Specifically, what did you do?
>Did you make a safe place?
>Did you use a lubricant?
>Did you explore around a bit noticing how and where you liked to be
>touched before you touched your clit?
>What kind of strokes did you use, fast - slow, what kind of pressure, light
>medium firm exactly where?
>Do the whole thing again, this time, just do it for the pleasure of it without
>expecting anything, when you notice that you are anticipating some
>sensation that isn’t happening, take a break and start again. Then get back
>to us and tell us everything that you experienced.
>-WC

>>Ok, I don't even know if I am doing it
>>right (and you may say that there is no right or wrong) - I have NO problem
>>getting wet, and while it all feels good, it is more relaxing than anything.
>>When I rub my clit (if I even have it right) the left side seems to have more
>>sensation, but nothing building to a major peak. Hmmmmmm what am I doing wrong?

>>>Welcomed Consensus- Create a
>>>safe place to be alone, use a little vaseline to lubricate your genitals, explore
>>>around without touching your clit at first, notice where and how you like to be
>>>touched, do that for a few minutes, then pull the hood of your clitoris back,
>>>with the tip of your index finger rub your clit for pleasure, not to achieve
>>>something, just for the pure pleasre of it, do that for as long as the sensation
>>>builds then take a little break, and then do it again.

>>If you do this, let us
>>>know what your experience was, then we'll tell you what to do next, other wise
>>>we'll take this off in about a week-Neil

>>>>I am a woman in my 30's and have never had an orgasm during sex. I have had
>>>>several when I am sleeping, and know that I am really missing out on something.
>>>>I would love some advise on how I may finally be able to have one at first by
>>>>myself, then with a lover. Any advise?