Posted by The Welcomed Consensus on June 14, 1998 at 13:17:40:
In Reply to: Over stimulated clit ? posted by George on June 14, 1998 at 08:59:08:
The WC:
A woman turned you on to this Board, so she must see some redeeming value, that you did not demonstrate in your post, so we will respond.
> I met a lady recently who has quite an interesting hobby. She is into enhancing her orgasms & sexual responses & sensitivity by practicing self stimulation. She turned me on to this site to get some different perspectives & feed back.
WC: This is not a hobby to her, it is the bare minimum amount of pleasurable attention she must give herself in order to appear to be a reasonable person that has to function in a world dominated by men that know very little about her sensually.
> I have no objection to what she does and actually am getting more comfortable with it but it took a bit of getting used to.
WC: This is a very patronizing statement.
> The difficult part for me was the fact that she really doesn't need me to please herself sexually. She wants me to participate but I had a hard time with just watching her masturbate until she was readyf or me to join her.
WC: Women have never NEEDED a man to please them. In her way, she is teaching you something, pay very close attention to what she is doing AND ASK QUESTIONS.
> It was stimulating and very erotic, to be sure, for both of us. However, for me, not being in control of her sexual pleasure was a new experience. I'm not sure I really like it but she does and has amazing orgasms both by herself and with me. I've never known a woman to enjoy herself, sexually as much as she does.
WC: Control of a woman's pleasure? What does that mean to you?
> Another part of it I feel uncomfortable with is when she masturbates in the car or wherever we might be ,even though it is not obvious to others I know what she is doing. She only uses her hands or fingers in private and in public she can do something with her muscles to stimulate herself without actually touching herself.
> I find this to be very uncomfortable at times & have expressed it to her. She says she is just doing her excecises & it will be to my benefit as much as hers.
WC: It's her body, who are you to be comfortabe or uncomfortable?
> She may have a point but it seems like she exercises excessivelly.
> Any one have any experience or comments on this ?
> I am 49 & she is 37 Am I out of touch or is she overstimulating herself ? I suspect she does this a lot more than often than I am aware of.
WC: Being out of touch is besides the point, and no excuse.
She wants to get off better, and the only way that is going to happen is, she finds someone, or trains (or gets someone else to train) someone to do it to her. Get our video, it goes all long way in putting you on the right track.
> Thank You,
> Steve