Posted by Mick on April 21, 1998 at 13:27:32:
In Reply to: Re: vibrator desensitize clitoris? - WC Yes it will, but that's beside the point...... posted by The welcomed Consensus on March 02, 1998 at 22:44:46:
I can't agree more with Temptress, and though you'll no doubt see this as a flame rather than constructive criticism, and therefore probably quash it, it's got to be said.
I've only been here a couple of days but I've heard you talk not only about better orgasms, but also about "enjoying the whole sex act and not stampeding towards a climax", if not in those words then certainly in that vein. I've read and re-read your guidelines, and since then a lot of your posts, and am incredulous at your attitude to your readers - it borders on the abusive!
I love sex. I love doing it, watching it, and talking about it. I love to discuss it, but in the staid atmosphere of suburban British life there is no outlet, no kindred spirits with whom to share my interest, my prurience, my nescience, my enthusiasm. I love to (try to) open people's minds, to help them shed their inhibitions, to let them see that there's simple and wonderful enjoyment to be had from sex; if they are prepared to speak frankly and not be embarrassed by their bodies, by their peers' cringing negativity, or by their or their partner's sexual (and emotional) needs.
When I came across The Clit Board I thought I'd found something I could share in wholeheartedly, something that was frequented by people who on the whole appeared to have what I have for the subject - that enthusiasm I spoke of! Furthermore, it appeared devoid of that scourge of liberal thought everywhere - stupid, ignorant people.
So, given that your readers and posters are in all likelihood taking their first tentative steps towards sexual liberation, expansion of their sexual identity, call it what you like - steps you have obviously taken already - why then do you treat them the way you do? For God's sake, encourage them - don't knock them! Let them have their say, forgive the awkwardness or inapplicability of their offerings, and instead praise the fact that they've at least contributed! I've read posts in which those very contributors are now apologizing for what they've said - because for whatever reason it didn't suit your concept of what your board is all about! (And yes, I've seen all I want to see of spam, flamers, detractors, do-gooders, time-wasters and the like...and there you do have my sympathy.)
In your guidelines you (quite rightly) decry complaints about the basis of your board, and I will respect your wishes. I will say though, that I find your rules and advice so convoluted and ambiguous that I don't know what to post, even though I'm sure I could offer something of worth (ie encouragement) to almost every post on the board! And in saying that I'm not being flippant, or arrogant, or conceited! I'm just being honest - because sex and sexual fulfilment are a very big part of my personality, and therefore of my life. From what I've seen of your contributors, I guess there are many more like me - so please, don't humiliate them for wanting to open their minds.
Perhaps, like Grasshopper, I'll have to keep wandering the Earth till I find those true kindred spirits I know I will be at home with.
Disappointed, but still enthusiastic,
Mick