I have never thought about giving fun and pleasure the highest importance. My guiding force was always No pain, without gain and I used this throughout my life.
Fortunately that belief is no longer there. My guiding force now is fun, everything I do now would be in the context of fun and pleasure.
The concepts about communication and seduction were great. It is perfectly fine to seduce a woman, after all that is what they want. Having this from the women and instructors in the WC was a great light bulb moment.
The philosophy of giving fun the highest importance was the biggest take-away from this course. The next thing I would take away from this course is putting on my sensual researcher cap and exploring my partner's and my sensuality uninhibitedly.
Thank you (Welcomed Consensus) for teaching me the course with warmth, intimacy and open-mindedness.
This was a great experience. To see a one-hour orgasm with your own eyes has finally convinced me that it is possible to push the limits in terms of achieving whole body orgasm.
The strokes, the attention, the peak, the up and downs, the gradual escalator were all fun to watch and learn. How wonderful it is to see and learn from an experience like this with your own eyes.
I am excited to use what I have learned and make good friends in the process.
The course was full of wonderful information and opened my eyes to many things that conflicted with my barriers and limitations I have put on myself.
I went from a very doubtful frame of mind to many lights going on, particularly the second day.
I learned much from many good teachers. All of the people here are warm and wonderful.
The setting for this type of retreat is awesome and home-warm and comforting. The food was an added bonus.
The thought of having all attention on one person for the ultimate orgasm is wonderful.
WOW! A full weekend with a wonderful climax. Reading the outline of the previous days study at the end really put a lot of it together much clearer for me.
Seeing an engorged clit for the first time made me realize that my wife has never experienced an orgasm.
I am so much more aware of how I have couched my wife's orgasm, pleasure and needs by what "mine are".
Seeing someone experience so much joy and sensation inspires me to work harder.
It will take some time for it all to sink in, but I will fuck doubt. (I promise RJ).
Carefully crafted vocabulary and exact delivery of the material felt rigid at first. Then it made sense to do it that way so that preconceived notions be bypassed and new framework received.
Challenging input to reassess how I relate to my wife.
The course gave a practical path to start implementing Deliberate Orgasm (DOing) in my relationship.
... We had more fun together than I could imagine.
I was kept at the edge of my seat just about the whole time, asking questions and challenged by the notions and wording.
Teachers were very responsive to question albeit sticklers to the exact formulation they evolved from years of experimentations: It commands attention.
It was very good to see that, even though it was a tad uncomfortable to begin with. I liked hearing her noises (during the demonstration segment) and seeing the approval and validation of everyone around. I learned a lot about engorgement and that there are more possibilities for varied sensation throughout the woman's genitals.
Her vulva also looked very pretty. It was nice to see a pretty vulva and a man who obviously enjoyed giving her (a woman) pleasure.
Wait, before I'm done, one more time: WOW.
One more thing, I just wonder how I'm going to get myself DOne. Exciting!
I am struck at how non-offensive the entire course was. I felt that all the women wanted to be there and all the men wanted to be there because all the women wanted them there. I could not have imagined a scenario like this could feel so honorable. I really want my partner to know how to get me off better and I notice how much he needs examples of getting off better so I really wanted him there. I felt each thing that Sheri described and that each of the other women described...
I feel so much gratitude to Sheri for demonstrating what's possible. I feel gratitude towards Wendy for demonstrating DOing a man and describing DOing oneself as a woman. I feel honored by these two women. I am grateful for Ken's usage of tone 40 and the gentle, energetic attention he put on Becca during the Positions demonstration. I am grateful for Daisy's instant and constant hospitality and for doing the best. I am deeply grateful to RJ for helping (single-handedly at times) and with great kindness, break down my resistance and point out my bullshit as well as my partner, even when it looked as if he (my partner) might drop dead.
To everyone, you have confirmed every suspicion I have ever had concerning the sensual world, men, women and myself. I feel finally, totally supported to go along the only path that has ever looked or even made any real sense to me. It is my viewpoint that what you have discovered is the most fun truth in the universe. I feel blessed.
The Observation of Intense Coming was an unforgettable experience. It expanded the concept of an orgasm, from taking a woman over the edge (which was cool) to one in which the experience was expanded.
The presentation of the viewpoints strongly encouraged me to think about how I was experiencing the world.
What an empowering weekend! I arrived at the Blue Heron Friday, and all of my senses were awakened or inspired during my stay. First the meals prepared by the staff have been delicious with wholesome food seasoned with tasty herbs, vinaigrette and sauce. The next morning I experienced the visual splendor of the Blue Heron, which is nestled in the rustic oak and pine studded mountains in northern California. The exercises and course assignments over the next three days were a journey for all my senses and I was thankful for the many exercises on touch perception.
The level of communication by the members of the WC was always complete and detailed. I was encouraged to ask further questions throughout the course. I also felt very comfortable with members of the WC. I now understand how valuable and unique their courses are. The sensuality course allowed me to truly expand the ways that I better relate with, understand and sensually/sexually experience the women I love. The course empowered me and has taught me far more effective ways to communicate with and satisfy a woman. This experience is a "gift" for me to continue to "unwrap" and explore in the future. After a year of "thinking about" taking this course, I now feel so fortunate that I called and enrolled.
This was a remarkable course. It really expanded my awareness of what's possible in the realms of sensuality and communication. Taking this course anywhere would have been outstanding, but coming to Blue Heron was a special treat. The setting is beautiful and there is such a strong sense of the loving energy shared by everyone here that I felt especially blessed to be here.
I really enjoyed the whole experience and I look forward to taking what I learned and expanding on it in my life.
I have taken this course several times, the last time was five years ago and it was a completely new course. Although the information was the same it seemed as if it was brand new, because I am in a completely different place than I was before. It was a ride of highs and lows, discoveries and confrontations. Relearning the importance of orgasm, sensuality, friendship and communication has reawakened my senses and awareness of things around me and myself.
It was wonderful to hear how the information was presented by Susan, Wendy, Ken and RJ. It was done in such a manner that was informative, pleasurable, understandable and left me wanting more.
Coming up to the Blue Heron Ranch was fantastic, the guest house we stayed in was intimate and beautiful. The food has been wonderful and we have been welcomed by everyone.
Before the demonstration, it seemed to me that an hour-long orgasm would be uncomfortable for the Do-ee. Quite the contrary.
It was difficult to imagine what kind of sensation that would be produced, having been exposed to only short-term pleasure of modern societal expectations. Having gone along for the ride for the hour, the possibility of different experience became apparent.
A specific frame that stands out was the first execution of the 6 o'clock thunk spot. With the energy being created (and sent out throughout the room) for 45 minutes, the shift that occurred at that moment was overly predominant. It felt like the slowly building energy up until then was focused and of a high, almost ethereal nature. When Rachael's 6 o'clock thunk spot was first touched the energy seemed to drop to a more physical level and explode outwards. To visualize it would be like a ground-level blast from a bomb and it has maybe the same effect extremely grounding.
Thanks again for the experiences. They will not be forgotten.
The major thing I noticed and enjoyed was the comfort level I felt throughout the weekend. I felt completely at ease and comfortable receiving the subject matter and asking questions about it. Everyone here contributed to my feelings of comfort.
The demonstrations and stories were excellent and kept my attention riveted.
I felt well taken care of and challenged at the same time. Just like someone being "Done", I am hungry for more practice and knowledge. I feel like I have been given a gift that will build and grow and enhance every aspect of my life. Thank you!
If there is anything I would like more of, it's examples and stories. For me, they enhance my understanding by providing me with a picture in my mind's eye. I learn and understand best through specific examples and stories told to illustrate a point.
I particularly enjoyed the most intense moments, though they did make me squirm. Being in the hot seat during the Benchmark and discussing my fantasies were 2 of the most intense experiences (especially the latter). I felt nervous, flushed and excited, and afterwards no-during and afterwards my entire body felt alive and charged with electricity.
I deeply appreciate having learned from people with a wealth of sensual experiences, people who have the courage to speak honestly. I appreciate the validation that I can follow my passion for orgasm, that I can follow the path of my desire. I feel that RJ's words went straight into my pores and into my cells and, though I'm swimming in it all right now and couldn't repeat it all back, my being is soaking it in.* All of our teachers spoke with openness and dignity, and I am grateful.
I loved that Francoise and Susan asked us to report on what worked with our homework, and made us stick to discussing what was successful. That made me feel even more turned on by my experience. The idea that we are perfect already, although not a new one to me, sunk in and I started feeling better and better in my own skin.
It felt like a relief to be able to speak openly about sexuality, sensuality, orgasms and the games people play. I feel lighter.
Thank you!
And I leave here feeling like I am going to get a lot more of what I want. Hooray!
*When he was speaking with us, both in the morning and in the afternoon, I felt the atmosphere get thick and my vision felt misty. I could feel myself changing.
I feel encouraged, enthusiastic, and ready to embark on a whole new level of being, with a whole lot more fun and satisfaction in my life. Thank you!
I really enjoyed the live demonstration. It enabled me to experience, in detail, the intent and technique of Doing. I feel much more confident now, and inspired, to practice, practice, practice!
Although I know there are a lot of things to continue learning, I feel I have a foundation of knowledge for this journey.
During the OIC, I experienced the physical and spiritual connection between RJ and Francoise. The loving touch between them was very apparent and inspiring. The up-close visuals of the camera and monitor will be ingrained in my mind for a long time and will allow me to tap into it as a resource when needed. Very informative demonstration with the communication happening before, during and after.
I enjoyed being able to be part of the experience by placing my hand on Francoise's thigh and feeling what she was feeling.
The overwhelming feeling I have at this moment, having just witnessed the OIC, is the generosity of spirit, the abundance of good feelings and good will, pouring forth from those demonstrating and everyone in the room.
I liked the ease with which Francoise relaxed into her session, tilting her head, closing her eyes, and allowing herself to feel good. The waves of sensation rose and fell, and rose again, with all of us sharing them. That is what I mean by the generosity of spirit.
The sounds Francoise made reached inside of me. They were a call I understood. The flushed rosy color of her face and her pussy, and the ocean of light in her eyes when she opened them, were a place I recognize in myself. It felt validating to have that place confirmed. Sometimes, when we are getting in on, my husband will ask me if I just had an orgasm, and I will tell him it all feels like one continual orgasm. I didn't know before if that was really accurate, but to watch Francoise go up and down and up higher validates my experience of my own body.
I liked the tenderness of Francoise touching RJ's arm and his response to her arousal, his face flushing pink, looking open and sweet. I liked the tenderness of Francoise placing her hand on my back when I touched her leg – another example of the generosity.
I was struck by the clarity, effectiveness and immediacy of the information given.
I was able to receive it as mostly new information. My previous concept about human sexuality, sensuality and relations between men and women were turned upside down.
I feel encouraged with the tools that I have acquired to go back in the world and have a try at it again.
I still feel the sense of freedom that came to me this morning after describing my homework in details.
I had never talked to anyone before about pleasuring myself. This was a great opportunity to learn, expand and confront my boundaries and limitations.
Thank you for the generosity with which you share your life and discoveries.
I feel blessed to have been part of this experience. I am aware after this of the power and importance of agreements. My agreement to be part of this experience, and relax into it allows me to sense it, understand it and integrate it so much more profoundly. Rachael's agreement to be exposed and share her experience of pleasure and RJ agreement to share his research and knowledge. All these agreements and others are the base foundation to the structure of oneness that we built together.
Within minutes of Susan and Rachael walking into the room I was excited and knew I'd be having fun. I felt the anticipation of having homework that night, hoping that my husband was going to DO me. Enjoying myself and getting to know and learn (or re-learn) what I wanted and felt good was a huge turn on.
The researched based information presented by the WC felt right. Wondering why I have been so resistant to that before could take over my life, but I think I'll just choose FUN.
Rachael, showing us a 24-hr DO date for a man was so beautiful! She looked flushed and you could tell she was having LOTS of FUN.
I really enjoyed the space that was created for my husband and myself. Everything tasted, felt, smelled and just was better.
The details made my experience wonderful. It's nice to get attention.
I respect and appreciate all the time and love everyone put into the weekend for my husband and me. It felt good to hear that there is no one more perfect for me than my husband and of course me perfect for HIM. (RJ said that Sun. afternoon)
All in all I can't wait to take the next course, get DONE in a few minutes from now, choose FUN and start approving of my husband.
The 1 o'clock thunk spot has always been a favorite of mine, and it's great to know it has a name. I loved watching Rachael turn red and smile the whole hour.
I felt informed, sexy, sensual, and ready to start approving, stop resisting, and HAVE LOT'S MORE FUN.
I look forward to it.
I'm thankful for the opportunity to take this course again. It was valuable revisiting viewpoints as well as hearing some as if for the first time.
I got clearer about resistance and doubt. Ways to push past that to have fun with men. I flashed that I lie all the time, every minute that I'm not having fun. Also that it's a way of being mean to my friends as well as me.
It was valuable learning about 100% responsibility. That men are really great barrels of love waiting to adore their women. That a relationship or any experience is successful and gratifying in direct proportion to the amount of responsibility taken. I found all the teachers engaging and fun and turned on. The demonstrations were equally engaging, fun and turned on.
I was grateful for the approval with which our questions and experiences were received.
I'm seeing that I have resistance to dropping my resistance (!) to pleasure because it's been a companion for so long.
I've been given some excellent tools this weekend, sound tips for living more freely and having fun. Looking forward to applying these and enjoying the results.
Thank you WC for your sense of fun and willingness to share it.
Better than I expected, sincere teachers. Thank you. RJ's confidence/experience, Wendy's caring, and Susan's love for teaching. I am inspired to continue on the road to "House on Fire" DOing with happy, fun women!
It was wonderful to be in person to experience, the sights, sounds, but most importantly the vibrations of the experience. Again it was an honor and a Pleasure. Our society needs this knowledge.
