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Student Comments
Beauty & The Beast (B&B)
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| February 1998 I thoroughly enjoyed this course. You brought me on quite a date. I learned a lot about myself, my boyfriend and being in relationship. We have already used some of the tools we've learned, and have experienced the turn-on of truth-telling. Thank you. |
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| -C.C. | |
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| February 1998 It's difficult to write—and I mean that literally. My hand is shaking! It may be the caffeine, but I suspect it's more likely the excitement of new possibilities. As someone in the class said, "I've learned I can survive, and now I want to start to live." Hyperbolic, perhaps, but it's where I am right now and IT FEELS GOOD Thank you all. |
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| -A.H. | |
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| February 1998 Taking the course this weekend immediately improved my relationship with my husband. We are more loving to each other and have been since we walked over the threshold of your house Friday night. We had a lot of laughs, sensations and joy during the course. I want more orgasm and thank you for the four steps—appetite, production, consumption and gratitude —to having more. I really needed to hear this concept. The course has given me the basics to operate from and I feel clear about my relationship with my husband. Love, |
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| -S.B. | |
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| February 1998 I came to this course because I knew that man-woman relations were pretty much a total mystery to me. I got a lot of insights to have ways for it not to be much a mystery. Just about every big insight I fought accepting tooth and nail, and some I'm still fighting. I decided that I will give up playing from fear and get to play from desire-I decided to do that when RJ said that it lifts such a burden when you do that. I also regarded this course like strong, medicine before taking it. It was strong medicine but it didn't taste bad, and I'm glad I took it and grateful to all of you for giving it. |
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| February 1998 It was great being able to hear such a clear view about how people really relate to each other . RJ's coaching was always right on the mark. |
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| February 1998 No more lies—for the moment I'm past the fear—It's just excitement. This conversation and viewpoint was just plain exciting! Thank you! |
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| -T.M. | |
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| February 1998 Thank you! You hit on all the places I wanted to know about: Inclusion Emancipation Being responsible Being deliberate Out of the "girl's club" Ejaculation-or not My progress being nice Wanting to be filled up with orgasm Telling the truth Knowing my friends better Being Feeling more |
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| February 1998 I'm a source junkie. Thank God that my sexing is my sourcing. A step closer to being human, God. Her clit is such a sweet turn-on. What an incredible way to be more aware. She's turning me loose. I hope I can wave on this roller coaster ride. Thanks you-all. |
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| February 1998 I noticed that in the last hour and a half or so I started to feel high and clear. I appreciated it when RJ pointed our that we all are feeling high. I had some clear thoughts about how to make money, which is something I feel I need to put attention on now more than ever. I think I was supposed to come to the opposite conclusion. I appreciated the viewpoint that it's a higher state of being to enjoy what I have than to try to get what I want. I feel that my life is extremely rich and exciting. I feel it's also about to step up to an even higher level. |
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| June 1997 Incredible class. Insightful, truthful, honest. It really focused the whole men/women relationships down to a few clear truths. This will definitely affect how I act and react in relationships with women. RJ was great. His honesty and clarity of thinking really got the discussions right to the heart of the issues. I feel great right now - a fun emotional ride and a lot of learning. |
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| June 1997 Thank you for this course. Im clear right at this moment. I am so thankful for the master/slave game I am playing with my ex-girlfriend. I'm paying much more attention to her than I did for most of the time we were boyfriend/girlfriend. I long for the superior relationship described in the course and demonstrated by RJ and Sheri. I have a lot to learn when RJ said I am being who I am by not saying anything... That was a good hit. I lost hope during the discussion about my ex-girlfriend surrendering to me and again about me giving it all up for her. I regained hope and a lot more at the end when everyone got so high. I felt so much love and felt so right. |
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| June 1997 I feel so calm and in love. Anything is possible. Thank you for the best B&B course ever. The path to this course has been wondrous. All those massages with B. and the fun I've had with him. The best Benchmark of my life. I also liked how this was a kind of old home weekend, spending time with Erwan, David and Billy and Susan (who were inspirational). You all continue to look great and be so much fun. Your lives getting better is so obvious. I've noticed that the last two courses I took with you, Touch and Look and this one, RJs kindness and the way he leads into the courses by explaining how he is being and why is very nice. I like it. I also think my conversations with Françoise have been fun and inspirational. I like the idea of a community course, the Players group, another Effect course, and going to Boston for your TLC. Lets play Dalmuti some night with T.D. October 1996 This weekend was great - I heard so much more then the last time and I loved the way it just all unfolded from the start, of planning to have the course here at my house. It was a goal and everything just built up to this weekend. I am overwhelmed with the love and gratitude of love, for all the love you've given me - that has allowed (kept with me) this two year journey from bad to good and now, onward and upward! My wedding is in two weeks! My life is fantastic and gets better and better. I am glad you don't accept any less from me, because that much attention and caring is LOVE. I love all of you, Wendy, Kim, Sheri, Vera, Steve and RJ! RJ - this was the BEST course I've been in - the BEST you've done. Thank you! |
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| October 1996 I've never laughed so much in a Beauty and the Beast course before. On the first day the story of the "Boy's Club" was especially memorable how I will never be #1 since I'm a woman. On day two, tying that together with my ability as a woman to control that #1 guy using turn-on and the training cycle was a huge reminder to me. Surrender to my pleasure. When I came in the course I had the question what is love for a man and woman. Love is intense apporoval - falling in love with the woman's pussy - fun as the highest goals were all points that I heard newly. I find myself in my relationship with my boyfriend in the same place I wan in with my husband... there is love and a lot of good we have had. I took my eye off of fun and had something else as more important, I put myself in that box. He has always been consistantly himself. I am running this relationship, it is 100% mine to own. I still have lots of talking and cleaning up to do. I am holding out. Find one truth and say it. No matter what, the truth is told, brings turn-on. Thank you for this experience. |
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| October 1996 I feel like I came in during the middle of a movie so I don't know the beginning and the rise of the plot. I enjoyed what I heard today and I gained insight into the dynamics of the way men and women interact and how difference/sameness between the sexes can be equally good and used to the advantage of a relationship. I feel like it's a lot of information to assimulate even after taking this course four times, but the pieces of the viewpoints settle in and out of my consciousness and I can feel the acceptence and rejection in my mind simulatneously. I feel at times capable of agreement and this choice seems much easier than fighting about it. I am glad my husband and I fought last night about the roles of men and women because I gained clarity about how we interact and it seem futile to be in disagreement. I am grateful to know you all and am glad I came today, because I fully realized that my bullshit is not as important and serious as I have conceived it to be in the past. I felt elated when Vera told my husband to look at me as God and it doesn't get any better than that. I felt everyones gaze on me and felt humble yet powerful. I am grateful to you all for the inspiration to want and have/achieve a superior relationship with my husband and I know I can always count on you for clarity, truth, and love. |
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| October 1996 Once again, another great course. Thank you! My first response is relief, and subsequent release. I had been raging mad, angry and frustrated. Now, I see and want a superior relationship with my husband. No more settling/compromising to sustain mediocrity! Glory will by my husband's to enjoy. Anger has lost its allure for me now and I noticed what it costs me. I feel calm now, and ready to take my realtionship to new heights of pleasure! |
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| October 1996 I'm really glad I took the time to come to the course. I feel like I really became enlightened as to why I do certain things and why my fiancee acts certain ways. The responsibility lies with me to understand the male prejudice against women and to adjust my actions so I don't continue to follow in that path. It's also my responsibility to pay closer attention to the little nuances of expression and to not let them go, without following up what's bringing her down, up and why. I was thinking that the timeing of the course wasn't good, just two weeks before our wedding, and that it might just stir up too much stuff. On the contrary it was just what we needed, what I needed, to better understand some of the little bullshit, petty, arguments we were having, and how to elimiate them. Thank you all very much! |
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| October 1996 When RJ said tell the truth and pointed out all the other ways I've tried it, I felt hopeful. Thank you for telling me so many times and showing me the way. When RJ said I was a mediocre player, I thought (after a while) that I could definitely go up from here. I love my girlfriend. I must talk to her and tell the truth every time. I see how skipping a time or two of saying something when I notice it, is disasterous. I feel awake and alive. The last couple of days I've been non-confronting my relationship with her. Specifically finding out what she wants. I'm on it now. Thank you. |
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| October 1996 The course helped me to seriously think of my friend's upcoming visit. I want to show her a great time while she's here. I think that she's interested in starting or continuing a relationship that we started a few years ago. The course material reminded me of how important it will be to listen closely to what she asks for. The best thing I got from this course in particular was the time spent with everyone. I thought RJ was very genuine with everyone and that everyone left happier than when they came. |
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| October 1996 It was illuminating for me - to see the things about myself that I didn't see - things I have fear about and don't know why. To see that I don't ask for what I want and am afraid to feel unattractive - its such an old, old conversation in my head, something that does not exist in the world, but through my filter it looks like I have to do it all myself because no one will give me what I really want. To simplify it - yes, I want a better orgasm and all the other fun things that go with that. I also love how my boyfriend is my mirror - I have seen that myself and to have it reiterated outside my head, validates my viewpoint. There is no reason to be angry at him - he's the mirror. So many conversations and information I agreed with and have thought myself - similar to the Common Sense course, but the beauty of the courses is how they pull all the information together in a way that's very powerful and provacative. You guys have really altered the quality of my life - on a very HIGH and UP level and I thank you and love you for all that you provide - even the confronts! |
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| October 1996 Thank you for a great course. I feel like being in the course this weekend reminds me of how important my friendship with my girlfriend is to me. My life is really wonderful. I love you all. This is the first course I've been in for a while and I'm realizing now how much I've missed this experience. Thanks again. |
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| October 1996 I like the man/woman, producer/consumer model. I already knew that I love to produce for my wife. I look forward to producing a better, superior, fun life for her. I love my wife. She is the most fun woman I have ever known. It's nice to know that there is some relationship between fun and mean because she can also be one of the meanest. My wife lives life full out! Sometimes that scares me but mostly I'm excited to be on this ride with her. I know I can produce extraordinary results. What I learned from this course is that the woman whom I am with is the perfect complement for me. I am the luckiest man in the world. |
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| February 1996 Relentless pursuit of Pleasure! I feel like I want a T-shirt with that painted on it and then live by it. This weekend several things sunk in that I had only just heard and not really felt it with my life. What stands out most was having fun be my main pursuit - main goal. I try to have fun in my life, but not living coming from fun every moment of my life. I came here Saturday knowing that being in this course was where I belonged but not feeling I knew why and what my goal was. Immediately once the course began I was having fun and hearing and understanding! Thank you - I had a really great time and felt like a player in this course. It felt really good to not be clear about something - ask a specific question and then have clarity. Thank you!!! |
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| February 1996 The theme for me the entire weekend : TELL THE TRUTH. I flashed that the goal of anger is to fragment and destroy. When I first started this affair with my current lover, I was so angry - I wanted to destroy the wife/husband relationship. Done. Now I see that I've been chicken to take my relationship with my partner to the next level, grow up, tell the truth. Let him know me and have him be right. Be his friend and have FUN. Wendy, the story "Whatever the Old Man Does is Always Right" hit home. Thank you. Kim, the line - "to be adored, you must be adorable" also hit home. I've been withholding my love - my approval - turn on from my partner. I've been a mean bitch. I've been testing him, looking for proof of??? what a slow game. Thank you. RJ, when you kept reminding us that you are right and we are right, I was right back in my absolution - a perfect being. I said in the moment when I went away. We went up from there. I realized that I don't need the romance, compliments, "proof" that he wants me in order to have fun. I could confront the sensation in my clit, want it, have it, surrender to my pleasure because I desire it - period. It is all up to me. I can have it any way I want it. Sheri, you looked so beautiful this weekend. It was a privilege to be included in your relationship with RJ and how it is expanding. Vera, it was a pleasure taking care of you - putting you at effect, loving you. You have graced me with your love and inspire me to go for more. Steve, your joy and sense of humor during this course was contagious. Thank you all. I love you. |
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| February 1996 I loved this course. This has always been one of my favorites and this weekend was the best one ever. I got everything I wanted and then some. This course is so full of information specific information, about the man/women relationship and how to win and have your partner win. It's like a 6 course meal with the cigar and fine brandy thrown in for fun. I enjoyed every bite. Thank you, it was cooked to perfection! |
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| February 1996 It's amazing to be reminded (again) how simple things can be. There isn't anything complicated about being in a state of grace. It's all the rest of the stuff that gets Byzantine. How did I forget to have Fun? Who cares! Not important. I am glad I waited to come here because I was at a point where "my way" clearly wasn't working and I could listen with open ears. Thanks. |
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| February 1996 This was the best, most fun course I have ever taken from you. What a rich, sensuous experience. I sat reveling in my presence in this course which started for me at Kinko's on Friday afternoon as I drafted you a proposal saying what I wanted. You, via Sheri, on Friday night validated my being a woman of my word - yes! Thank you for noticing. You loved me enough to have me in the course - yes! And to care about me getting financially stretched out. Well, guess what? Leaving the course tonight, I know that I can have anything I want and I know what it feels like to really want something. What do I want? I want... THE RELENTLESS PURSUIT OF PLEASURE! To be told the truth. To tell the truth. To have FUN! To surrender. And the subsets of these things I want: My Absolution A superior orgasm To fall in love For the men in my life to be my heroes and know that they are winning with me I felt my self doubt and I felt my being right. You are right. My life is so right and good. I love that you are in my life. I love what you have done for me. You are my heroes. I thank you! This is fun! |
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| February 1996 A fabulous course. RJ, you were brilliant. I am so proud to be a part of the Welcomed Consensus community. I've never before had friends like all of you, willing and telling me the truth. I love you Thank you. The big good, putting doubt aside, right hand, left hand. I fell as though I was validated as a woman. Thank you all. |
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| February 1996 My relationship with my girlfriend is going up now and this course has shown me specific ways to have the most fun with her. A man's integrity is a woman's only salvation was one of the zingers for me. Witnessing a fellow student squirm reminded me of what a liar I am and you said it has played out in my relationship with my girlfriend, specifically having my bullshit be more important to me than telling her the truth. FUN IS THE GOAL HERE! YES!! |
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| February 1996 Wondering how life will look from telling the truth...having fun!!! being nice... |
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| February 1996 Thank you very much, I really enjoyed this weekend. It was the first time that I was looking forward to taking this course. I felt on an intense ride and laughed many times. I feel I got my priority straight again, to have fun, to get off better. Thank you very much, I love you so much, I love my life, I have enjoyed my boyfriend so much. I feel becoming a woman and finding out what a man is. |
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| February 1996 Thank you so much all of you and especially RJ. More than anything I walked away with the paramount importance of always telling the truth and of protecting, building, creating my rightness. I'm also left thoroughly impressed with the rightness, the importance of pursuing fun as my highest goal and that there's always a way to have everyone win. I'm truly in love with the life that we're building together. Thank you. I'm especially, more than ever grateful for my relationship with Kim, and the fun, inspiration and pleasure she brings to my life. More than ever, I can see the importance, the absolute fucking world of difference that having a woman, a real woman who is a full human being, can make in a man's life, as a source of inspiration and an object of adoration. Thank you. |
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| February 1996 You all are the best. I've never experienced such truth - I was thrilled with your attention to me and my boyfriend's relationship. Thank you, thank you, thank you. |
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| February 1996 The end of Sunday was the smoothest and most impactual experience I can remember having. What I got was that my girlfriend is a human being, the most incredible and beautiful human being I have ever met and if she left me now, I would have been graced to have spent the years I did with her. I love you and will be around a lot more, if you all can tolerate it. Thank you for telling the truth. |
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| September 1995 I see so clearly now how to get everything I ever dreamed. This course made me feel like a full woman, as if the natural powers I was born with are right and good and magical. I've never been so glad to be a woman. I feel like dancing. |
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| September 1995 First, I really liked how RJ went over the basic information to build the foundation of the course. I especially enjoyed the description of the Man/Woman game when I got clear on who was playing; my partner and I as the highest relationship in that game and including RJ, Sheri, Wendy, Kim Steve and Vera...I have the experience of being in a wonderful process of authoring a brand new type of relationship with my husband. Vera said "make the rules as you go", and I reminded myself that the goal is fun, pleasure and a superior life based on those things. When Vera said that the freedom could be "freedom from anger", I flashed on my power to be a friend to him - being willing to tell the truth without anger. I can do that. I can and will use my most powerful tools - the Training Cycle and my turn-on. I am left in a place where I am focused on my highest goal - better orgasm and completing our Confirmation Course graciously. I am grateful for the love and attention I am surrounded by from you. I am thankful for having such a great man to share all of these experiences with and to produce them for me. My view of all the many things - sex, food, baubles - he produces and has produced for me has been expanded. My appreciation has been expanded. My life has never been better because of his willingness to give me what I want. I came into this course with questions about how to be in this new relationship, I'm in love with him, this new, awesome life. They were all answered and more. |
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| September 1995 Thank you all for a great course. The frame that comes to mind now is when I asked about taking breaks and where my attention goes. The response that there are no breaks was a great relief. I don't feel like I'm totally insane when my girlfriend is still on my mind. I also feel I'm more willing to spit out what's on my mind when it's on my mind. I see that when I wait it turns into something ugly, it rehashes the bad experiences from the past which is all a lie anyway. I feel clear that what my girlfriend wants now is for me to get trained, to learn my craft as a man. I have a really wonderful life and I thank you all. |
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| September 1995 Great wind up to have me walk out connected to the value gained from the course and how fun it was. Great to communicate to me that you are on my side. I loved the challenging aspects and stretches for my mind with these new viewpoints. I enjoyed the tips, tidbits and statements that sum up how I have noticed things to be with me or with women. A light bulb goes off and I say, "Yes, that's it", I've known that and forgot it or suspected it to be. I thought on Saturday that I would never want to retake this course but now, on Sunday evening, the harder version intrigues me. |
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| September 1995 This was really the perfect course for me to attend at this point. It gave me reality on a lot of thing I'd been confused, frustrated and angry about in my relationship with my partner, like: 1. What's the difference between acknowledging her for her influence on my life and blaming her. 2. How do I tell what she really wants. I feel a lot clearer about how to be a better friend to her and I feel like the most important things I want to never lose sight of are: 1. putting my attention on her. 2. telling her how I feel with integrity and without charge. 3. giving her every experience I can possible provide enthusiastically! 4. being aware of and responsible about my chauvinism. I've had some success at making giving her everything she wants my highest priority and I felt like this course really cleared my head up and brought it to the forefront just how important that is to me. In some ways I'm more terrified, but I feel like I really know and/or suspect most of what she wants. I also have a new and also renewed appreciation for living with the most magnificent group of women I've ever imagined possible. Actually even more than I ever could have imagined. Thank you for all you love and your honesty. Thank you for your patience, your approval and your turn-on. |
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| September 1995 This course changed my life. I feel like I got the information for the first time and am willing for the first time to apply it to my life for the purpose of having super relationships with the women in my life. The concept of acknowledgment (of what is) has been my stumbling block in having the kind of relationships with women that I really want. Saying how I feel and acknowledging women for the good in my life and surrendering to a woman's wants is still terrifying to me but I see clearly that without those elements my relationships blow-up (and that was the fear that kept me from doing them). A favorite frame was the flash I had when RJ said (and I'm paraphrasing) - you can give them what they want with enthusiasm or slink away to do it, and the flash I had was how I have been slinking and what my life could be like if I was enthusiastic - WOW! Have I been sleeping? I'M AWAKE NOW, THANK YOU!!! |
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