Get on the Same Page Sensually
by Setting Sensual Goals
Deliberate Orgasm Article

What are your sensual goals?

Successful people make goals about specific things they want to accomplish regarding their career, health, finances, family or sports. The act of setting goals helps define and direct a course of action, and shapes the choices a person will make on a day-to-day basis.

But what about when it comes to pleasure, improving your sex life or having a better orgasm? Do goals apply here the same as they would in business?

Sensual goals may seem like a contradiction, but only because we think of goals as something to work at, just one more thing to add to our To Do List.

Sensual goals are based in pleasure and enjoyment. They involve the senses and experience of life. They emphasize going towards fun and winning. Having fun is an honorable goal.

For a sensualist, having sensual goals makes a difference in the overall quality of a person's life. When we are faced with choices we can ask ourselves if this option or the other will lead us closer to our goal or not.

A question such as, "Does this activity bring more or less pleasure into my life?" can clarify where to put our attention and energy.

In an area as broad as your sex life, it is valuable to define sensual goals in terms of what you want. When you think about having more pleasure and fun, what comes to mind? When you think of better orgasm, what does that mean to you? What are you doing and feeling? Start with what you enjoy and what you'd like to have more of in your daily life. Write it down while imagining each of your senses and how they come into play.

Then refine your goals by answering the specific questions that develop. Perhaps you would like to feel more sensation in your body during sex. Or maybe you would like to consistently and reliably have orgasm in your daily life. For example, one specific sensual goal could be to masturbate for the pleasure of it every day. Another could be to write about a sensual experience in your journal each day.

You might also have goals for your partner. What do you want them to know about giving you more pleasure? What would make your time together even more fun? Perhaps you’d like to learn about each other’s bodies. If so, you could have the goal to tell your partner something new every time you have a sensual experience, whether it be having sex or eating dinner together. Tell them something you liked, something that you have never told them before. Describe your experience in detail so that they can feel your enjoyment.

If you select one or two goals now and go towards making them happen, new ideas and desires will open up. As they do, write them down and use them to create your next pleasurable goal.

We are all sensual beings. Pleasure is something people resist having, especially women. It feels good to be around people who enjoy what is going on around them. With sensual goals you can deliberately bring more of what you enjoy into your sex life. Those good feelings will naturally be carried into everything else you do.

To see what others are saying on the topic of sensual goals
go to the Clit Board - Sensual Goals discussion.

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