Pleasurable Ways Women Can Get What They Want
Deliberate Orgasm Article

When a woman wants something there are two ways she can go about getting it pleasurably: She can turn-on and she can use the training cycle. Both are highly effective and can be used together for a fun and pleasurable way of relating with another person.

From a sensualist's viewpoint, "turn on" is when a woman is in agreement with the level of tumescence in her body and approves of how she feels and what is happening around her. A woman’s turn on is powerful - by turning on she can turn on the people around her. Being turned on can inspire people. They enjoy putting their attention on her and it is an effortless way for a woman to get what she wants.

The other tool she can use is the "training cycle". This is a communication tool that both women and men can use to win every time they communicate. It can be used in a sensual situation or in daily aspects of life such as doing a task with a co-worker.

The training cycle is broken down in to three basic steps:

Step 1) Have your partner right.
This means that you find something right about them. Often times, people are not used to acknowledging all the things they like and appreciate. We are conditioned in life to critique, to say or point out what needs to be corrected. This first step is an opportunity to exercise your muscle of approval. When exercised consistently, this can become a powerful muscle in your life. An example of step 1 may be that your friend’s eyes look bright, their cheeks are beautifully flushed, you may be grateful to be having this experience with them.

Step 2) Ask for something your partner can succeed at.
Ask for one thing that you want and be specific. Frequently, women wait for a man to read her mind and expect him to know what she wants or has hinted about what she wants. But hinting is not the same as using the training cycle. Hinting is hit or miss. Or perhaps she told him overtly what she wanted before and it was laden with disapproval so her communication didn’t land. By using the training cycle you are approving of the person which is a fun and often unexpected way for people to be related to. An example of Step 2 is "Would you use a slower stroke?"

Step 3) Let your partner know they succeeded.
When you experience getting what you have asked for let your partner know they succeeded. Your approval can be communicated by saying, "Thank you, that slower stroke feels good." Or even more specifically, "Thank you, when you slowed down I could feel the sensation travel down to my toes and I like that a lot." Step 3 is an important step - it is an acknowledgment of what just happened and lets the person know they have given you what you want. Step 3 completes the training cycle. At this point you could start at Step 1 again.

The training cycle is fun and though it may feel contrived at first it is like dancing the waltz. For instance, when gliding across the floor with your partner while dancing it is important to do all three steps and not skip over any of them. "One, two, three... One, two, three... One, two, three." The more you practice the more natural and fluid you become.

Women (and men) can get what they want pleasurably every time using this effective communication tool. The training cycle always works.