Having Sex for Fun: Bonobos
Deliberate Orgasm Article

Human beings can have sex for fun. We are deemed unique in the sensual/sexual arena since females of our species have the rare ability to turn on and have sex at any time. A woman does not have to be in-heat like most other mammals in order to do it. Our brains have huge frontal lobes which govern many activities, one being voluntary or volitional sex. Simply conceiving the notion of a sex act can create the actual behavior. It is not hormonally dependent nor strictly biologically driven.

We are not alone, however, in this distinctive ability. Our next of kin on the evolutionary ladder, the Bonobo apes, have volitional sex and do so with relatively high frequency. They are one of the few other mammals that scientists have determined have sex for fun.

The Bonobos are the last primate species to be discovered (in 1933) and reside only in the rainforests of the Democratic Republic of Congo.

Bonobo sexual behavior is not a separate category like it is in most other species. Rather, it is integrated into the day-to-day social relationships amongst all individuals within the tribe. Frequent sexual arousal often is instigated by anything that stimulates the interest of two or more Bonobos. It could be feelings of jealousy over a fellow ape or simply coveting the banana or plaything of another.

Sexual bonding is the remedy for any potential squabble, therefore, fighting is a rare occurrence in this society. Sex is also used as a greeting and source of amicable food sharing when Bonobo groups encounter each other in the jungle. They barter with it and engage in it simply for the fun and enjoyment.

Sexual pairings are not restricted to male-female; all combinations occur except for mother-son. Group sex also takes place and mounting positions are varied as well. The most common sexual contact is genito-genital or "GG-rubbing" between two females. By facing and holding on to each other, two adult females rub their swollen crotches together while often expressing visible pleasure and joy.

Oral sex, tongue kissing, masturbation, mutual manual genital stimulation and copulation in many positions are other sexual activities that Bonobos enjoy just like people.

Due to the fact that volitional sex occurs randomly multiple times a day, female Bonobo vulvas are almost continuously pink and engorged, and are a constant signal for sexual willingness and attractiveness. In contrast, all other primates' genitalia are engorged only one quarter of the time. The frontal orientation of their vulva and clitoris allows them to copulate face-to-face or in "missionary" position, seemingly unique to only humans.

Squeals of delight, huge ear-to-ear smiles, arms behind her head or in tight embrace, gazing into each other’s eyes and passionate kisses are some of the ways they express their pleasure while copulating. The squeals and grins may be interpreted as orgasm.

Our endearing ape relatives are the epitome of consummate deliberate sexing. They successfully demonstrate that through pleasure and orgasm a peaceful, loving community directly results. Something their large brained cousins may want to consider.

To learn more about the Bonobo Ape,
see this book on the recommended reading list.
Bonobo: The Forgotten Ape

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