Posted by John G on February 23, 2010 at 13:15:

In Reply to: Re: How can I make her want to have sex more often? posted by Angela on January 30, 2010 at 15:11:

This is perhaps the most interesting series of posts I have ever read as they seem to struggle with the changing concept of orgasm as couples experience more and deeper feelings. Reading about or seeing (DVDs) the extended orgasm technique can’t begin to accurately describe what goes on in people’s bodies as they train and become accustom to it. What I have found the number 1 inhibitor to be better sexual intimacy is the preconceived notion of what sexual pleasure or even orgasm is. What I thought was the pinnacle of pleasure seems to be only the tip of the iceberg.

Bill’s questions and the answers are fascinating in that by explaining they open up more room for exploration of the subject than they answer. Defiantly the key for us has been relaxation. My lover used to look forward to getting it over with preferable with an explosive orgasm. What I have noticed is with a slow deliberate clitoral stokes and lots of vulva play that is no longer the case. Simply knowing pleasure is reliable available seems to have given her permission to believe pleasure is available to her even if she is “not feeling in the mood” (with work and family who is?) The other side of the coin seems to be there is no need for complicated perpetration. How and why do these changes take place if allowed by a person’s brain, the body discovers leads its self toward deeper, greater and more varied pleasure?

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