Posted by Robin on February 03, 2010 at 09:49:

In Reply to: How can I make her want to be sexed more often? posted by Bill on January 28, 2010 at 09:40:

This is a good discussion and I had something I wanted to say to Bill. I think it is wonderful all that you expressed in your post, you really care about your lover.

The part of your post that stood out to me was when you said "For some reason I find her indifference to be a huge turn off, maybe because I can't understand how she could experience and express such intense pleasure during our date, but not want to feel it again more often."

My partner wondered why I didn't always get all turned on, hot and sexy after having a DO date. He felt confused because sometimes I did, sometimes I didn't. He thought that he might not be doing something right. It took a while for us to talk this over and for us to understand what was happening.

I told him that sometimes havng a deliberate orgasm that feels pleasent, slow, easy and soft is just right. He didn't believe me at first, he thought that something was missing. He came to realize that he'd been led to believe that hot-screaming-earth-shattering-mind-blowing orgasm as often as possible was what he should be giving me.

I realized that I had that mindset too, but having many DO dates at times when I was in all different kinds of moods, not just when I was "in THE mood" was fun. I didn't have to limit myself to having sex only when I felt passionate. From there our relationship and sex life has grown.

Follow Ups:

• Re: How can I make her want to be sexed more often? - Art 20:01 8/24/10
  • Re: How can I make her want to be sexed more often? - Rachael - The Welcomed Consensus 00:25 8/26/10
    • Re: How can I make her want to be sexed more often? - Art 21:13 8/26/10