Woaw…I am blown away that you would even consider and offer all these options. I am new to deliberate orgasm. I don’t always like my clitoris to be stimulated directly, so we are using the different strokes and pressure to find out what I like and what works best to have an orgasm. Usually the lighter strokes work better for direct stimulation of my clitoris…I am not sure I could even imagine not going over the edge right now. So what really happens when you don’t take her over, what does she call that? Does she like it? What are the advantages? This sounds quite intriguing.