Posted by Rachael - The Welcomed Consensus on November 28, 2009 at 01:19:
In Reply to: Slowing Her Down posted by Bill on November 23, 2009 at 10:15:
Thank you for the post about the sensual research you've been doing, Bill.
Relaxing is key. During a DO date when you and your partner are relaxed, the sensation spreads easily, and can expand.
When she is getting impatient or lifting her hips, she is no longer relaxed and she is not feeling what you are doing.
When you are the DOer, you are the person creating the orgasm in her body, not the other way around. You can tell her to relax, feel my finger. Women love attention - telling her what you notice is friendly and will have her orgasm get better.