Posted by Chris5 on April 08, 2009 at 09:48:

In Reply to: Deliberate Orgasm and Relaxing posted by Robin on March 21, 2009 at 11:34:

I think I understand what you mean, although “relaxing” would not describe it well to someone who has not already experienced or created it. It is more like levitation, suspension, or floating. One early book on extended orgasm called it being “nailed”, because the woman felt she couldn’t move and didn’t want to move. Relaxing just allows you to go there.

In any event, your reference to the “right before” part which you wish to “never end … because it feels so good” is right on the mark and resonates with me. I feel privileged and proud to be able to provide such pleasure to my partner. Her wishing that it will never end is just about the perfect reward.

Here is a tip, which is not original. It is based on WC’s advice one or two years ago, as I recall. It is really for the DOor rather than the DOee, but it may be useful in your situation.

In order to “elongate” that part, as you put it, I learned that I should not do some intuitive things, one of which is to lighten up or pause. That made her want to climax, probably because she was afraid I might abandon her without a resolution. I found it was much better to continue with a steady, confident stroke which is firm but noticeably slower. That seemed to convey the idea that I was calm and in charge, that I was completely taking care of her, and that she didn’t need to do or worry about anything. Her sounds and breathing told me within several seconds whether I was on the right track. If I heard deep exhales I knew I was, so I kept on, which seemed to fill her entire body with pleasure. In the levitation analogy, the pleasure would be like helium taking her up and holding her there.

Since then we have progressed, and recently we were able to extend this “levitation” indefinitely. Now, I do not have to wait until she is close to climaxing (i.e., going over the edge); whenever I slow and firm up the stroke and then hear the deep exhales, I know that we are there. And now that she knows what it feels like, we both want to stay there, so we do. To switch to a different analogy, I feel that I am playing her body like a fine musical instrument.

To put this in perspective, I should add as a disclaimer that I am not an authority on DOing. We have only experimented briefly with DOing exactly as shown in the DO Duet DVDs (i.e., hands-only from beginning to end), and our routine by design always ends in explosive simultaneous climaxes. (We have not ruled out trying the exact DVD approach in the future, however, as indicated by my 10/29/08 post.) Although our routine was inspired by DOing and seems to produce results similar to those shown in the DVDs, the hands-only part is only a first phase, with the best levitation/recitals occurring later by oral and (briefly) penetration.

Follow Ups:

• Re: More Like Levitation Than Relaxing - Bill 09:46 4/10/09
  • Re: More Like Levitation Than Relaxing - Chris5 19:48 4/10/09
    • Chris5 - You're An Artist... - Bill 21:56 4/10/09
  • Re: Deliberate Orgasm and Relaxing - Robin 13:59 4/10/09