Fun way to do it! We have been using deliberate orgasm - DOing in the standard position to have me relax and he does the stroking. I've never had a problem stimulating myself to intense orgasm, but I wanted to be able to let go in the pleasure of it all, be completely relaxed to feel as much as I can. I also wanted him to be able to stimulate me and give those intense orgasms like I could give myself. It is all working beautifully for us.