Posted by John on April 24, 2008 at 11:20:

In Reply to: To Answer Your Questions posted by Joseph on April 19, 2008 at 01:17:

Joseph your first question caught my eye and was spell bound by your description of Doing it. The observation that you have physical limitations struck a note, as I think we all have physical limitations whether we are contortionists, aging contortionists, bad backs, bum knees, acid reflex or those mental / physical blocks like muscle tension or feel we look stupid AKA “spectator anxiety”.

One thing we have noticed as a couple is that if I am beside her as you noted, one arm around her neck, (too many pillows to get to her nipple) the other hand Doing her, she is much more relaxed because of the intimacy and she often requests this position. True, there is no second hand with thumb or finger resting on her introitus which when it is there has amazing results for her. Nice as this may be, after 5-15 minutes the angle of my Doing it hand causes cramps and produces more muscle tension even in places like my lower back and pelvis. Stroking her becomes more limited her interest can fall off. On the other hand this position gives her access to my penis, which is nice and relaxing -- all trade offs.

I love the idea of sitting on a stool the way JR does it in some films. It looks oh so easy to a bad backed Doer but seems a little austere. We have no massage tables or stools so official is out here. I do like the visual connection with her vulva so it is nice to also sit up one leg over her torso, tucked up under me, or standing on my knees. As others note this is a good two-handed Doing position but you are right cold nights limit sustainability. My problem is my back can’t take these positions very long either. So what we end up doing is sort of a combination of positions and the change enhances relaxation and prevents the build up of mussel tension or body stiffness.

The Brauer’s in their ESO book also show a side-by-side head to toe position with the man resting on his left elbow between her legs with fingers in/on introitus and the other hand Doing her clit. This is another relaxing position while not as intimate as the one you describe, she has grand access to the penis. Trading peaks or mutual peaking really most heartening experience. It is not cold night perfect but covers can cover fairly well.

We all discover, change, and develop together in ways we may not even recognize let alone share.

What I am curios is what other people think of as physical limitations and how they work through those together to make our love making more sensual and intimate.

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