Posted by Vanessa on August 12, 1998 at 13:45:

I received an interesting email from a man who asked how important it is for a girl to achieve multiple orgasm by either masturbation or intercourse.

Firstly, there are differing view points on the term "multiorgasmic". The more in tune I become with WC's philosophies, the more I believe I wish to retrain myself to achieve the type of orgasm they demonstrate in their video (which is quite an excellent, instructional video I might add, although I haven't seen it in it's entirety yet as I'm waiting for a free night that my partner and I can make available to watch together and practice together...plus I've missplaced my favourite Calvin Klein dress, SHIT!...a black spaghetti strap skin-tight little number that feels great hugging my quaint, sensitive boobs! )

When I started masturbating at around age 5, yes it was definately age 5 as I remember sitting in circle time at kindergarten fantasizing about having the teacher take down my ruffly panties to see my bald little judy!...I would achieve quickly and many wonderful orgasms that I dubbed 'the ticklies'. It also worked well while climbing the long poles of the swing sets in the playground. Sometimes I'd have orgasms one after the other and sometimes there would be about 3 or 4 minutes between them. In any case I would do this all day long. I remember going to see Chitty Chitty Bang Bang with my Grandparents and getting off the whole time in my theatre seat by crossing my legs and wiggling ever so slightly....(man, I had it down to an art! ..what the f*ck was that movie about, anyway?)

I used to feel quilty about all the self-pleasuring I'd obtain and would constantly tell myself I was going to quit soon.... It wasn't until I realized there was a connection between masturbating and sex, at around age 11 or 12 that I felt really good about doing it. I think that's why I'm unhungup about sex today and have always, always enjoyed myself immensely while having sex, since I was 'having sex' with myself all my life.

In my earlier days of intercourse (lost my virginity at 17), I would always cum first, several times, through oral or manual stimulation and be quite satisfied. Although I've always loved penetration there wasn't a connection to my clit through it until the last 10 years or so when I started achieving (clitoral) orgasm through penetration alone. I taught myself (with the help of my wonderful partner) how to manipulate his thrusting penis into my vagina in a way that would stimulate my clit exactly the way I needed it. Now, the best sex for me is to kiss and lick each other's bodies (extremely arousing and clit/cock hardening) for quite awhile before any penetration. We tease, talk dirty, and bring each other right to the edge several times without orgasming until we both can't possibly take another second, then he usually picks me up (it's amazing how wonderfully strong his body becomes when his sole mission for the moment is a powerful, intense orgasm) I know he's in this state because his eye colour changes and his face takes on a very primal, animalistic look...his voice changes, he's sweating, trembling, like there's a volcano inside him waiting to errupt....I've seen the boiling lava in his eyes...it's unstoppable and so exciting!...f*ck it helps that he's so handsome too!)... There's no way out for me when he picks me up with such ease (I weigh 140 lbs), mauls me like a lion cub and mounts me like I'm his total possession...(mellow out feminists...I'm okay with this...I'm an old-fashioned kinda girl!) He has an amazing ability to thrust while on the edge of cumming for as long as I need him too. We usually feel the rythmn of each other's bodies and can match our pre-orgasm progress perfectly (which I attribute to the wonderful talent long term monogamy brings) until we're ready to orgasm - TOGETHER! There's something to say about cumming at the exact same time that is totally like nothing else in this world. There's a complete 'oneness' felt when this happens...a complete union of the souls. It's when a man feels he wants to completely crawl into your c*nt and actually spiritually does. I think this is when his eyes roll back into his head and he starts mumbling gibberish...it's very sexy indeed!

When we have sex like this, I don't feel the need to have more orgasm... One is enough, to match his one. I'm at a place in my adulthood and sexuality where I'm satisfied with what I've achieved throughout my life of self discovery (masturbation) that my focus is very much on a union with my partner...sexual, physical, emotional and spiritual. I find my sexual appetite changes as well... sometimes I'm only interested in being licked to orgasm... all the time, doesn't matter if we fuck. Other times all I want to do is suck his cock... all the time until he cums, down my throat and into my stomach. Sometimes we 69 ourselves to death... Sometimes I want my asshole violated... to feel like a slut, a whore... a tramp, filthy and horny! Whatever is on the menu, I find my partner is quite respectful and always a willing and giving lover.

I feel especially good for having discovered the Welcommed Consensus and have introduced their concepts into our bedroom. I've never felt that I have it the best it can ever be and am always open to new ways to achieve pleasure even if it involves the retraining of the way I feel an orgasm. The girl who is being 'done' in the video is definately getting off in a way that has until recently been unfamiliar to me. She's very natural and very definately feeling intense pleasure. I was surprised by the lack of noise she makes but I think that's because she is totally relaxed and not tensing up. I still tense up because that's what I've always done, but the correlation is the same as what you would do while in labour... you wouldn't tense up then because you'd only feel more pain... you would try to relax and ride the contractions up and down. I think it's the same with being 'done'. This is how I believe she is in a continuous hour-long orgasm. My hat's off to the WC for being able to perform this in front of a camera and other people. I think they're a mature bunch of content people who have accomplished more in their young lives than most people ever will.

As to the issue of what I'd do if I were a guy for 48 hours??....Hmmmm, that's easy. Find every hot, moist place to stick it. Get it sucked, get it whacked, get it off real good and try to eat my own chiz!

Do I like masturbation marathons...ie: tons and tons of orgasm? I prefer just a couple of them. My marathons are kind of a thing of the past...my childhood, when I did it because it felt good and had no sexual connection. It was like eating a huge bag of candy...you ate lots because it tasted great. Now, orgasm is a more specific activity and I prefer to fine tune the few that I prefer to have. Besides, there's nothing better than the first one...except for the WC's orgasm...one long, continuous one. ...I'm looking forward to learning that.

Hope this answers your question.

Vanessa!

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